Guiding Childrens' Activities

Sometimes we are so eager to have our children participate in an activity, that we seem to "push" them to take part and don't realize that we are creating, instead, anxiety (in general), and mistrust towards us. Naturally, all parents want their children to succeed in whatever they decide to do, so the following rules should help you to prepare them for the challenges your children may have ahead of them and allow them to feel good about themselves, regardless of their level of participation.

First, make sure that your child is relaxed, then introduce a new activity to them. (It's easier to learn when there is "no pressure".)

Secondly, ask yourself before starting any game or activity if your child has the proper skills to take part. (Not having the proper skills can create short attention spans and boredom.)

Third, if the child seems bored, pay close attention to their skills, and IF they have the proper skills, adjust the game to be a little harder, of course, if the child seems confused, adjust it to be a little easier for them. (Using your observation skills, can only help your little ones!)

Fourth, DO NOT PUSH YOUR CHILD TO FOLLOW A CERTAIN PACE! (Letting them set the pace creates fun, interest and self esteem.)

Fifth, don't continue an activity if your child seems restless or is showing aggravation with participating. (They can try again another time, and you may get a totally different reaction!)

Sixth, there is no "right" or "wrong" way to take part in an activity. (Some kids learn just as much by watching as the kids that are doing!)

Seventh, let your child repeat the activities that they know how to do well. (A repetition of skills provides them with a sense of mastery and success!)

Eighth, don't "instruct" your child, but instead phrase your words as if you are making "suggestions". (This type of leading emphasizes the "fun" rather than "instruction".)

Ninth, give lots of hugs, smiles and kisses for their achievements. (This shows them that you support the "playing" that they are doing!)

Tenth, let your child try the skills without you watching them. (Sometimes they need to succeed or fail alone, only to repeat it again until it suits them!)

Following these short guidelines can, and will make a difference in your child's future learning attitudes. (Remeber a building needs a base so that it can be built higher and higher. Your child's future achievements need a stable foundation as well!)

Go To Page: 1 2

Articles in this Topic    Discussions in this Topic