What people don't have a "right" to do, is to express that anger inappropriately.
Some examples of "inappropriately" expressed anger would be:
Hitting, biting, screaming
Kicking or hitting an animal or pet
Throwing a temper tantrum, or a fit
Verbally hurting another person
Physically hurting another person
There are many inappropriate behaviors that even some adults use to express anger, and we seem to know how to perform these expressions. What many people "don't" know how to do, is to find "creative" and "appropriate" ways to express their feelings. Below, I have included a few examples of the proper exhibition of feelings.
1. Get involved in a sport, and use this as an outlet. (Many kids play baseball and soccer, oh how good it must feel to hit or kick that ball!)
2. Run, run, run! (Run down the street and back. Run around the outside of the house as many times as it takes! You usually can't feel exhausted and angry at the same times!)
3. Color, scribble or cut and tear paper.
4. Redirect that anger by singing, trying to think about happier times, or giving someone a "truly deserved" hug.
5. If you have access to a video game, many times this can be an outlet for your anger! (Take it out on the characters! After all, they are not real! Just remember this!)
The above are just a few examples of some of the "redirecting" that we can all do, but one important thing that we must learn as adults is to let our children express themselves. We do, however, have the responsibility to make sure that they express themselves in "constructive" ways.
We must be in control of our anger and express ourselves constructively to be able to "teach" this to our little ones.
Above all, listen, listen, listen! Many times, we are so busy getting along with our own lives, that our children's feelings are not payed attention to. I am a firm believer that if we take the patience to "listen" before we "leap" that we will have a much better understanding of how to handle a situation, or how "not" to handle it.
Until next time, pull those weeds, move that furniture, and clean the house! These are great anger busters too!
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