It's the Thought that Counts

If you think the statement is false--you didn't put on a few pounds--then obviously the co-worker is mistaken and you can completely ignore the remark.

If you think it is true--you did put on a little weight--you can tell yourself that anyone who overeats good homemade food will put on weight, and you will lose it now that you have lowered your daily calorie intake and stepped up your exercise routine.

In either case, you might also think how rude that co-worker was to make such a remark, and you'd never give such a fool the power to make you feel bad.

2. Imagine the outcome you want.

Instead of spending your thought energy on worrying, spend it on imagining an outcome you desire.

When you repeatedly think about something you failed to do or fear something you need to do, you are expending precious energy that you could be using to do what you need to do. Instead, repeatedly think about a desired outcome. Visualize it; see yourself succeeding; hear yourself being praised or applauded. By thinking this way, your own action toward that outcome is set up.

3. Change any use of the words "can't" or "won't" to "can try" or "will try."

Yoda said that there is no trying, only doing or not doing. In a sense, trying is doing.

When you think you can't do something or you won't do something, you are not even trying.

But when you try, even if you don't get the outcome you desired, you have indeed done something--you have taken an action toward a desired outcome that can provide you with helpful feedback, if you look for it. Did your attempt tell you that you no longer desire the outcome you thought you wanted? Did it tell you how you might modify your actions to reach the desired outcome?

There really is no failure when you look for feedback, and when you look for feedback, you will find it.

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So, what do you think?

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Here's a thought: Happy Holidays!

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