THEY DON'T WANT TO DRESS THE SAME ANYMORE!

Flash! A birthday party (forget which one). Alec and Logan are tearing into the gifts Grandma and Grandpa brought. Logan holds up his shirt (they always give shirts) and says, “I love it!” Alec holds up his and cries, “I wanted one different from Logan’s!”

What??

Flash! Sears. “Hey, guys do you like this shirt?” Alec: “Yeah, I like it.” Logan: “It’s OK – does it come in a different color?”

Enter a new phase and exit the cute little boys dressed alike. My little “twins” were turning into their own person with their own opinions, likes and dislikes.

I guess this is what parents of twins should strive for – your twins having their own personalities. But, it was still sad. Don’t get me wrong, I was excited they were developing their own likes and dislikes. But, how would other people know they were twins if they didn’t dress the same?

So, what should parents of twins do when their kids enter this individuality phase? Demand that they stay little and cute forever. Yeah right – no, embrace it and nurture it and get over it!

I’ve said it before – your kids may have been born together, but they are separate individuals! When they get to a point where that individuality comes out – it is a time to rejoice. It is an opportunity to see who they may become. It is a time to nurture that individuality and let them know that it’s OK for them to like things differently than their sibling.

You can help them develop this individuality by buying different clothes, toys and books. Take them separately to movies, the library, birthday parties. My boys have become such individual people, that they like different types of music, different TV shows, different school subjects, different friends, different hair styles and even different jokes!

We have achieved what all parents of twins should strive for: children who are thriving and developing their own personalities, while still reveling in the fact that they are twins. Some days the boys refuse to let others know they are twins – they go out of their way to make themselves look differently from each other (easy to do since they are fraternal). Then other days, they dress alike and push the fact that they are twins, even telling people that they are so. We, Steve and I, usually just shake our heads and let them go on their way.

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