BIRTHDAY INVITATIONS

Up to the point where Alec and Logan started school, we kept things pretty much even between them. Same clothes, same toys, same room, same friends…

But, then it was time for school. All of a sudden, things were not even. They had different teachers, different friends, different homework (not too much in preschool) and different opinions (yikes this was scary). Parents and others should always keep in mind that just because they are twins – they are two different people: two different personalities and two different minds. Twins may look the same – but they are not the same person!

Not in the least did I mind the boys having different teachers, different opinions and different homework. The “different friends’ idea was a little harder to manage. Up to the point where they started school, Alec and Logan had always played with the same kids. I never had to worry about one of them being excluded from anything – because they were both always going to the same place.

Then it happened – Logan was invited to a birthday party and Alec was not! I was devastated, how in the world was I going to explain to Alec that Logan was going to a party and he was not. So, I broke the news as gently as I could – Alec was fine. He saw this as an opportunity to do something with Mom and Dad all by himself! Wow, that was easy. This different friend’s thing is going to be easy! WRONG!!! Logan got invited to another birthday party – this time at the coolest kids play place in town! Alec was not so happy about this one – he wanted to go to this play place too!

Now my dilemma – do I tell him tough luck or do I beg the Mom (who is hosting the party) to let Alec come too? I have always been very aware of the fact that kids have siblings. If it was at all workable, I invited the siblings to Alec and Logan’s birthday parties also. This time, though – I was on the other side. I talked with Alec and he was adamant that he get to go to this play place also. I called the mom and talked with her. Turns out that it was no big deal – I told her that we were going to stay and that my other son was going to play there also. She told me that she wouldn’t be able to pay his way, but that he could have birthday cake with the other kids. Whew, problem solved – I paid for Alec to get in and all was fine. I probably apologized 20 times for bringing Alec – but at least I didn’t have a cranky kid on my hands.

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