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GETTING INVOLVED WITH OTHER MOTHERS OF TWINS

© Carrie Webbenhurst

One thing all new mom’s need is to know other new mom’s. This is especially true with new moms of twins. The reasoning is two-fold: 1 – to know someone else is going through the same things you are, and 2 – to know someone you can turn to when you have questions.

While I was pregnant, I received some Mother’s of Twins magazines. Reading through them, I found a phone number of the National Organization of Mothers of Twins. I thought (and articles I read agreed) that I should get to know some other mothers of twins. I definitely needed to know someone else who had twins and was going to be (or has already) going through the same things as me. So, I called the national number and got ahold of a local Mother of Twins club.

I believe that getting involved in and getting to know other MOTs (Mothers of Twins) was a great thing for me to do. But, the club I contacted in Texas - was not for me. I am not a stuck-up person and I really try to not judge someone by where they live or how they lead their lives. That said; the 2 women I met with started out by telling me how I could get food stamps, how I qualifed for WIC (Women, Infant, Children) just because I was pregnant with twins, and they both lived in a trailer park.

I visited with them for a couple hours (one wondered if I was sure I wasn’t carrying more than twins because I was so big – just big babies), asked them some questions and thought the whole time: I have nothing in common with these women. I knew that we didn’t qualify for assistance and I couldn’t talk to them about cruises or trips to Europe; so I decided to not continue with the club. I also decided, at that time, that I really didn’t need to know other MOTs.

All that changed when we moved to Washington. All of a sudden, I was in a city where I knew noone, the boys were getting bigger and I had questions about twins. This time, I called the library and the hospitals to get a name of a local MOTs club. That was the beginning of an eight year membership with Twice Blessed MOTs.

The club gave me many things I needed when the boys were little. I had questions about the boys: what kinds of diapers to use; sleeping arrangements; naps; pacifiers; separating them in school; dressing them alike; etc. The club provided me with those answers and also with a once a month night out with other women (and eventually once a week daytime meeting with moms and their kids). We had 2 clothing sales each year where I was able to sell clothes, toys, books, bikes, etc. This was a great place to find other items for my twins at an affordable price: ski bibs, books, toys. The clothing sales were especially great for moms who were expecting twins or had newborn twins (because the newborn items were never worn out). One other thing the club provided me: some very good friends.