The truth is that for centuries parents have been sleeping with their children. The only society that frowns upon this is the Western culture where we believe in the sacraments of privacy, convenience and independence. Well, I for one, am willing to sacrifice my own privacy and "convenience" and postpone the independence of my daughter until she is ready to take that quality on for herself without having it prematurely forced on her. Besides, I wouldn't trade the precious moments we spend, three in the bed, cuddling and giggling. I love waking up to her sweet baby breath on my face. I laugh when I wake up to see my husband hanging on the edge of our queen size mattress as I'm curled up in the Northeast corner because the baby is spread-eagle in the middle of the bed. It should be said that co-sleeping is not for every family. If you are uncomfortable with it, by all means, find another solution. Infant side-sleepers or bedside bassinets and cradles are an alternative. Never co-sleep with an infant when you have been drinking or using drugs. If you or your partner are heavy smokers, drinkers or drug users co-sleeping is not recommended.
The best advice I can give any parent is to follow your heart. Don't let anyone plant doubts and fears in your mind. Don't make decisions based on those fears. Do what your instincts tell you and you will not fail your child. Love and respect your partner and make all of your parenting decisions as a team. If you are looking for support and ideas and discussion check out some of my links or post on our discussion board. Go to your local library and look up "Attachment Parenting"; look at the latest issue of Mothering Magazine or attend a local La Leche League meeting.
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