Never A Loser

Human beings can be horribly cruel with each other, especially verbally. Any decent counselor knows that the old saying "sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me" may be a good way to strengthen yourself against these barbs, but they DO hurt, and thinking that verbal bullying isn't harmful is just denial of the facts. You can build up your mental toughness by refusing to react to these punches, and that is always good, but you also need to heal yourself from those hurts, not refuse to admit they stung. Songwriters have a lot of stupid press to counteract, with people either thinking you are either rich and won't admit it or a total loser trying to dodge "real work." Here are a few tips to heal yourself from these untruths, and keep doing the work you love.

THEY ARE THE LOSERS, NOT YOU

When someone calls you names, remember that most of these people are actually talking about themselves. The standard tactic of someone like this is to throw up a smoke screen to keep others from looking at the accuser's life. The easiest way for them to do this is to distract potential viewers, often a person accompanying them at that moment they hope to impress and bamboozle is to point out someone else, make up some totally wrong statement about that person they don't even know, and change the subject. They can then go on, rattling on at length about that other person (you), all things they are guilty of and not you, with teeny tidbits they may have heard through gossip about you to add "truth" to their statements. Pity these people. They obviously are troubled, and forgiving them will free your mind space for more important things like your music. Usually, when asked, you will find that these people envy you for your courage, and are trying to make you chicken out of what you are doing so they feel some sort of control over you to make them feel powerful. Sadly, it is their lives that are out of control, and they are too foolish to try to fix that, and they are really just distracting themselves from the real job they need to do in their own heads. What you are doing is a very tough profession, and you are proving your worth with every attempt you make, because you at least tried and learned something doing so. Don't let a label like "loser" keep you from being the winner you are. They are losers for not seeing that, and not seeing that it is their lives that are messes, not yours.

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