Intimacy Concerns For Women with MS

In the absence of explanations and communication, the partner may misinterpret his woman's actions as meaning he is deficient or unattractive in some way. For example, fear of losing bladder control, worries about leg weakness and discomfort, or depressive thoughts may make a woman reluctant to engage in intimate behavior with a loved one. However, her partner may feel rebuffed or neglected by her lack of desire in the absence of an explanation. This miscommunication could have serious ramifications in the couple's life. On the other hand, a clear line of communication and a search for alternative ways of pleasing one another could effectively alleviate the problem.

The main strategy to deal with changes in attention and concentration is to maximize sensual and sexual stimuli.

"Creating a romantic mood/setting, using sensual music and lighting, talking in sexy ways, and engaging in erotic touching provide multisensory stimuli that minimize 'cognitive drift' during sex."(Foley, Werner, 1996).

In The Other Side of Sexuality, Alyssa Skye wisely points out

"While orgasm seems to be widely praised as the ultimate form of enjoyment, it is by no means the only one. For many women, an emotional bond with a partner and the everyday expression of it are just as key to their satisfaction."

Be sure to check out the sites I've listed under "Recommended Reading" for more detailed information on this important subject. With an aggressive approach by the patient, an empathetic partner, knowledgeable healthcare providers, and open communications, the problem of sexual dysfunction in women with MS can be successfully addressed.

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Sources and Recommended Reading

Sexuality, Multiple Sclerosis and Women Frederick W. Foley, PhD, Audrey Sanders, MA

The Other Side of Sexuality, Alyssa Skye, Suite101.com: Women's Sexuality, 2/29/2000

Sexuality and Multiple Sclerosis Randall Schapiro, MD, International MS Support Foundation

Sourcebook: Sexuality. From The MS Information Sourcebook produced by the Information Resource Center and Library of the National Multiple Sclerosis Society.

Brochures: MS and Intimacy by Tanya Radford

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NOTE: This article is presented for general information purposes only and is not intended as a prescription or recommendation for your personal situation. You should consult with your physician or other health care professional for specific advice on your personal health care choices.

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