One great idea that has been successful for many people is to write letters to family and friends to let them know what changes they need their loved ones to make before they are able to visit with them. They usually detail some problems with products they are experiencing and exactly what they need the family to do. For instance....use unscented laundry detergent, do not use softener sheets, use unscented deodorant, no hair spray, perfumes or colognes, no smoking, no fragranced shampoos or soaps. Some letters also include information on studies that have been done concerning health effects of use of everyday products like fabric softener sheets.
Many people think that if they only use a teeny amount of their product, it will not hurt their loved one but that is not so and that issue should be covered in the letter. Occasionally, some survivors have also included studies that have been done on symptoms and causes of chemical injury and poisoning along with their letters. However, I think it is important not to overwhelm the family member with information. Give them the basics and then approach your special needs. You can always share more as the opportunity arises. Too much too soon may cause more problems than bringing them along carefully with bits of personal experiences and knowledge.
Some people offer an exchange for their loved one, because they have to discontinue use of their favored products. Making up a gift basket of safe products, for their loved one to use before a visit has been used successfully by many people. It is a nice way to introduce the problem and makes it seem like a special gift and not a burden to have to get special things to visit you. If you decide to do this you might deliver your letter along with the basket.
A sample list of items that have been included in these gift baskets could include . . . A mineral deodorant stick, some laundry detergent, a small bottle of vinegar for laundry softening, a non fragranced lotion, and some unscented soap and shampoo. If the recipient is a woman, some people include lipsticks and other makeup, although these can be very expensive. You may consider making some personal care products like lotions and creams yourself. Also, items like these are usually easily found in a health food store.
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