A Warning Perhaps

I had planned to write my article this week on getting along with your mother-in-law; a sort of sequel to the last article. However, my Mother was hospitalized and now all my thoughts are on her.

My Mother is still relatively young, in her early 60's. I know from personal experience how short life can be and my mom has had some medical problems in the past. In fact, she was scheduled to have a tumor removed just days after this "spell" hit her.

The call I got from my sister was vague. It seemed our niece called her and told her; "Mom was in the hospital, possible stroke, and something about a vein in her neck. Don't get upset April. We don't really know what is going on", my sister urged me to calm down as I became obviously distraught.

I'm emotionally close to my Mother having spent more of my childhood and adult hood with her than my siblings have. That is not to say I love her more or she loves me more than them. However, I am probably more dependant on her. Hence the guilt!

Ashamedly, I immediately thought of myself, what would I do with out her? How will I manage? How can I financially get to where my mother is? How can I see to her and my niece's needs when I have a custody hearing for my daughter, Samantha coming up in a few weeks? What will I do?

Thank goodness, it turned out that she did not have a stroke. It appears she has an inner ear disease. Her surgery has been postponed, until she is in better health to safely under go that procedure. Me, well as I stated above, I am feeling just a bit ashamed at my selfishness. Yes, it is true that I never want to see my Mother suffer. I will somehow if needed get to her and help in anyway I can. My husband and I cared for his father and we have vowed to do the same for my mother should the need ever arise.

Perhaps this is a warning, maybe we should take the time to establish a plan in the event my Mother becomes to ill to care for my teenage nieces and herself. Experts advise adult children to make themselves aware of their parents' future plans and wishes. I have never heeded their warnings. I guess I should start.

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