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Mother and Daughter-In-Law


© April Lee Schmidt

What about the other daughters, our daughters by marriage? How does one avoid being the object of those crass mother-in-law jokes? Some very important factors to remember when developing, maintaining, or healing a relationship with your daughter-in-law are: She has a different family history and as such may have a different set of moral or living standards.

She is the woman your son loves and wishes to spend the rest of his life with.

She is (or very well may be) the mother of your grandchildren.

She comes from a different generation than you.

Most importantly, she is family.

So, what happens if you just do not like her? Well if you want to have a close relationship with your son try to keep that information to yourself. You do not have to like her, you just have to accept her and remember your dear son loves her very much.

So far, I only have one daughter-in-law. Luckily, I like her very much. While we have very different opinions on many things, we have managed to find some commonalities. Like many women, we both just love to shop. My youngest son is only eight months older than my grandson is, so we often take " the boys" to the park or on outings together.

I make a concerted effort not to be concerned in their household affairs, or parenting tactics. She does the same. We recognize that any advice given is given out of love, not as an attempt to be controlling or pushy. Many times, we agree to disagree.

For more information on the mother/daughter-in-law, relationship check out http://www.inlawinfo.com. It is owned and operated by a mother and daughter-in-law team. They offer information, surveys and advice on all aspects of the in-law relationships.

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28.   Jul 31, 2006 2:35 PM
In response to Difficult Daughter in Law posted by goodbyeheart:

Here is the address to a Yahoo Group for MILS
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-- posted by peace2you


27.   Jul 29, 2006 7:19 PM
Would someone PLEASE start a website where MIL's can talk openly about their dire situations with their DIL's?

There are many sites where the DIL's can talk about their MIL's like they are nothing ...


-- posted by goodbyeheart


26.   Jul 29, 2006 6:55 AM
In response to Difficult Daughter in Law posted by daughterinlaw:

All I can say is "Will you be my daughter in law?" Yo ...


-- posted by peace2you


25.   Jul 28, 2006 9:35 PM
Thank you for your insight. I appreciate it greatly. You're a smart young woman and have wonderful insight.

I just want to say: if you have a son, remember that you will love that boy just as much ...


-- posted by goodbyeheart


24.   Jul 21, 2006 11:57 PM
Dear Mothers-in-Law,

I came to this site desperately trying to understand the mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship that I find so difficult. The postings I read here from sad mothers-in-law ...


-- posted by daughterinlaw





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