Love isn't love until you give it away

Both these principles, concentrate on what one can give rather than what one can receive, and yet those who give more (of things or of themselves) tend to receive far more than they actually give out. (I wonder if that is not what God was trying to teach us when he expected us to tithe?) The nice thing about people who give, is that they do not give in order to receive. They give to make their lives richer – which it does. The sad thing is that we were all taught these principles as small children, but other children's actions often landed up disillusioning us. I have noticed that the school environment cannot be compared even remotely to the outside world. In school, often the bullies get ahead but they are usually shunned in the outside world. People who give a lot of themselves in the school environment might be walked over by the more "popular", or "powerful" children, but the same behavior later in life can only be beneficial to them. One can just hope that the other children don't kill the exemplary behavior before it can reap the rewards it should. The reason I am writing about these two issues in a supervision column is because perhaps the origin of most psychological stress and unhappiness comes from loneliness or stress. If people learn to manage their time better, they are definitely on the track towards reducing their stress levels, and those who feel alienated or isolated might discover that if they just reach out to help others in need they may discover that they no longer have the time or energy to focus on what is wrong in their own lives. Be careful though. I am not advocating martyrship or becoming a doormat. If you decide to help others, make sure you are helping them in the way you can, and not being forced into giving something of yourself that you do not feel comfortable giving. If at any stage, you begin to feel you are being bullied into doing something that saps too much energy from you, then take a step back and look at the whole situation again. Ways in which one can help others could be anything from inviting a friend's partner to dinner while your friend is away, making a meal for someone who is going through a period of grief, or has just had a baby

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