This is going to be a three-part article...one discussing the benefits of controlling one's own anger, ways in which to do it and then one related aggressive toddlers, and coping with children.
Before continuing, I think it is extremely worth while to have a look at two particularly thorough articles. The first deals with gaining control over your anger, and offers some very useful tips for doing so (http://front/csulb.edu/tstevens/b-anger.... The second is a full journal article dealing with the fact that catharsis (ie "letting all your frustration and aggression out on an inanimate object") is not a good way to relax and reduce anger (see www.apa.org/releases/catharsis.html). I found them both to be logical and interesting.
Basically, I think that emotion control boils down to your value system at the time. Perhaps one makes a scene at a supermarket because you really feel they need to improve their service, and if you don't tell them, then who will? Or you are really late for an important engagement, and find yourself stuck in the traffic. In such situations I used to become extremely angry...almost, I think, as a way of letting those around me know how I felt. I wanted people to see that I did care about keeping appointments, and that I did like to be on time...I was only late because of a situation out of my control. I would then walk into a meeting all in a huff, ready to tell all and sundry about my terrible experience, and no one would take much notice - but I was too involved in my own problems to look around and read the signs.
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