They were the type of people who invited family to celebrate the holidays with them every year. They were also the type who was slighted every year by, ironically, all of them for one reason or another. Either they lived too far away, plans couldn't be rearranged or something of the like. Nonetheless, they pressed on with invitation after invitation year after year.
Until this year, that is. They decided to give up being the people making each individual effort because, after all, it turned out to be wasted. They decided to create new traditions with the family they created together, and if family wanted to be a part of it, they could make the inquiry.
Was their decision hasty? Some believe it to be so due to the current events shaking the nation. Their belief, however, is things aren't changing in the hearts around them so why should they go out of their way anymore. That may sound harsh, particularly during the time of year when we should all be thankful, but there're only so many rejections people can take before it turns personal.
This couple has been residing in Maine together and creating a family for the duration of their marriage. Their family is both in Maine and Massachusetts, hardly a long journey to visit. They believe the road does go both ways, so they've made a conscious effort to visit when invited in hopes that courtesy will be returned eventually. Instead of being thankful for the people they wish would be a stronger part of their lives, this year they're focusing on what is around them when giving thanks:
Not thinking about anything more than the bonds created under their roof has proven to be quite difficult. Meal planning doesn't seem as exciting, decorating with fall themes seems like a pointless effort and dressing in their holiday best doesn't seem worth the trouble. Despite their feelings of hurt and bitterness, they rethought their decision not to send invitations to their supper table. Their hearts and minds have been greatly impacted by the changing world and the new sense of normalcy everyone is seeking.They're thankful for their wonderful church community. They're thankful for the roof over their heads. They're thankful for the beauty around them. They're thankful their children are growing in a state they feel is safe. They're thankful for the simplicity behind their lives. They're thankful for the culture which flows in their everyday life.
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