When Love Comes To Town
Trying to make up for lost time by throwing yourselves into a dating frenzy? Forget it. While rushing from your favorite restaurant to every tourist site to must see scenic spots and hot clubs, the romance is bound to get lost in the shuffle (or in the exhaustion). Instead of trying to do it all, settle for choosing one or two places to visit and concentrate on enjoying them thoroughly. Limiting your itinerary will make the dates more special than if they were just a blur in a whirlwind of activities. Remember the old adage "quality not quantity" and save some destinations to look forward to for future visits.
Okay, your love is in town, time is limited and everyone wants you to pencil them into your social calendar. Grandma wants the happy couple to visit for lunch, Mom has called dibs on dinner, your sister has invited you to her beachhouse overnight and your cousin Iggy has lined up a meeting with some potential employers should your out of town partner decide to become your in-town partner. What's a couple to do? Compromise. If Mom simply won't forgive you for missing her gathering, go. But don't feel obligated to spend an entire evening. Stay for dinner but politely decline to stay for dessert, or explain why you can't make the meal, but will happily bring the after dinner coffee. Or, if possible, spend the whole evening and include Grandma and your sister - and anyone else who simply must meet your beau before he returns home. Getting everyone together in one place may sound like much for an out of towner to endure at once, but it's time conserving and actually less stressful than trying to keep several different engagements.
Don't be afraid to decline invitataions you just can't accept. Be firm but polite. Explain to Aunt Margie that although you'd love to, you simply don't have the time. Reassure her that you will make every effort to keep her in mind for next time. Or, if you visited Aunt Margie last time, remind her that you enjoyed the pleasure of her company and in the name of fairness need to devote that time to a relative who has yet to meet your special someone.
Look, we've already established that time is precious. There's no need to waste any of it fretting about communication or
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