Finally. A Compromise

My husband and I have finally compromised on a church. Now we must find out how welcoming the church will be when we meet with the minister on Sunday. It is a Presbyterian church with great music and beautiful stained glass - my criteria for proper worship. My husband likes the traditional nature of it. It is close enough to his Episcopalian background for him.

So on Sunday we are going to meet with the minister and explain our backgrounds. My dilemma is whether or not I should be completely truthful and tell him that I don't believe in the whole Jesus thing, or whether I should just fudge it for the sake of making the joining process easier. My youngest son is six months and needs to be baptized (according to my husband), so the sooner we join, the better.

My gut feeling is to be completely honest and see what the minister's reaction is. I mean, if my husband believes and he's got two little kids that can be brainwashed any way he wants, why should he care what I believe? On the other hand, if he does care then we might not be able to join and the music is really good.

Our decision to join the Presbyterian church came after last Sunday's fiasco at the Unitarian church nearby. It was a lecture on the parasites of South America that will probably end up killing us all because we are destroying their environment. Interesting? yes. Depressing? yes. Spiritual? no. It was like a community event rather than a service. I need to feel like I was at a church service when I attend church.

So we will see what happens on Sunday. I'm looking forward to knowing exactly how tolerant this Christian church is of interfaith marriage issues. I will report on the results in my next column.

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