Being a full-time mom is not a hip occupation. It's not a popular topic to write about. It's even uncomfortable to talk about in most social circles. Those of us who feel compelled to take on this role are unwelcome reminders of days past. I'm either an obstacle to feminism or a failure by its standards.
I could have been a doctor, a teacher, or a journalist. I had the brains and the discipline. But there was a moment a few years ago when I held a tiny newborn baby in my arms, and ambition took a backseat to love and maternal instincts.
No, I won't be named woman of the year any time soon. For that matter, I won't even be respected for what I do by most people in our culture. But just like my career-oriented peers, my life is of great importance. Every day, I use my intelligence, creativity, skills, heart and soul to do my best work. The idea that being a mother is a noble profession was once a given. Now, it is neither believed, nor understood.
It's popular to debate about childcare, improving education, youth violence, and solving problems for America's future. The value of motherhood is certainly not a hot topic, but I dare to say that many of the problems that plague our society today could be resolved if childrearing were taken more seriously by parents and others. Our generation of violence, drugs, divorce, and depression might have benefited greatly from having parents who were encouraged to dedicate more time and attention to their families.
Tomorrow, I'll read to my children. I'll talk with them, eat with them, play with them, and guide them. These may sound like small accomplishments and my effort may go unvalued, but I know in my heart that the little things I do each day of my "unemployed" life will make a huge and significant difference in the lives of my children and the world around them.
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