Much of the pain associated with childbirth comes from being tense and afraid, so one of the key things to help labor and childbirth go smoothly is to be able to relax and let your body do it’s job. You may find that the intensity of labor takes you by surprise. Give relaxing techniques a chance. When you relax, your body releases natural painkillers that can help you through labor.
Find out what helps you relax. You can learn some ways to relax in childbirth class, but also consider what normally helps you to relax. Consider what smells help you relax. What sounds help you relax? Do you like quiet or do you prefer a certain type of music? Would low-lighting help? Would a warm shower or reclining in a warm tub of water help you relax?
Things like keeping your breathing under control and using different breathing techniques can help. Patterned breathing works for some women. Natural deep breathing works well for others. Focusing on an object or just staring into space at nothing or closing your eyes are different things to try. Some women find it best if they ignore the pain as much as possible and concentrate on, for instance, patterned breathing. On the other hand, some women find it helpful to think about and be in tune with what their body is doing.
Be open to trying different strategies. During labor you might be surprised at some of the things that help you feel relaxed--perhaps a cool washcloth on your forehead, moaning through the contractions, dancing, rocking in a chair. Listen to your instincts during labor. If you feel that you need to move into a certain position or make a certain noise or breathe a certain way, go ahead and do it. Every labor is different, so don’t worry about doing everything “by the book.”
Don’t let fear be part of your labor and birth experience. It’s especially important to have only supportive people around you during labor. Have people there who know your desires for your birth and will help you and give you encouragement. Also, let those at the birth know what you like and don't like. Be honest. . . but be polite if possible. Consider hiring a doula, especially if you plan on having a hospital birth.
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