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Preparing for Birth

© Jeri Carr

As you prepare to give birth to your baby, it can be scary thinking about what your labor and birth will be like--whether it is your first child or fifth child. As much as we know about birth and how it works, there is still the element of the unknown, for anything can happen. Remembering that our bodies were designed to give birth and that women have been giving birth since the beginning can help encourage the fearful mother. Indeed, birth is a normal process, and it’s truly amazing and beautiful.

Birth can be exhilarating and empowering. Some mothers feel little pain and even describe giving birth as pleasurable. Other mothers feel quite a lot of pain, especially if they experience the dreaded back labor. But once you hold your little one in your arms, it is worth it all.

You can help to prepare by learning about labor and childbirth by reading books and birthstories. Focus on reading joyful birthstories and books that discuss the naturalness and beauty of pregnancy and childbirth.

For some women it can also be important to become aware of potential complications and to face any fears you have head on. Don't stuff your fears away, and, on the other hand, don't dwell on your fears. Deal with them, and then let them go. For instance if you are fearful of having a stillbirth, imagine in your mind what could happen and what you would do--would you like to hold and cuddle your baby, what preparations would you have to make, etc. Then let go.

It can be encouraging to join e-mail lists or be part of a message board. Talking with other moms who are going through the same things as you or who have gone through them already can be enlightening and fun. Some lists and message boards seem to promote a more medical-minded view of birth, while others focus on natural childbirth. There are a plethora of choices available such as lists and message boards about waterbirth, unassisted birth, vaginal births after cesareans, and natural birth.

Also, consider taking a childbirth class with your birth partner. Participating in childbirth classes with your husband can encourage him to be more involved in your pregnancy and birth. Research the different types of childbirth classes. They all have different philosophies about birth. Many hospital classes offer you the least opportunity of becoming truly informed about your options.

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