Victims No Longer
My cracked and scattered existence began little by little to heal. Every time a secret was revealed, I began to be able to have less anxiety attacks. As each event was exposed, and light came to the truth, the sicknesses that had their grip on me dissolved one by one. Positive thinking replaced negative beliefs.
In 1986, I attended a Christian Survivors Group for victims of incest. When I first began, not only would the words not come out of my mouth about my abuse, my body would not come out either. When it came time for me to share, I would end up sitting underneath the coffee table, behind the couch or chairs, or run from the room screaming. Slowly, as I shared each horrible detail of 'my story,' I gained healing in every area of my life, including physically.
Then again in 1990, when I decided to deal with a life threatening rape and how it felt to be a battered wife, it took being placed in a treatment facility and tender care from the Rapha staff, to be able to cry, then talk, do role-play to be able to further my healing.
Faith that I would be harmed replaced the fears that I would be further victimized. Faith that I could stay well replaced the anxiety that new things would make me sick.
By 1996, I was cured of a life threatening illness, which had been diagnosed terminal for me. Healing touch therapy, mental and emotional therapy and many hours of writing brought me a life today that is unimaginable for someone who has been through my life experiences.
The past week, I shared with a friend the macabre stories of my life. During this sharing time, I did not get nervous, anxious, scared, or feel bitterness. Instead, I realized that it was my option to believe the depth and strength of my 'real' recovery was to stay forever. Again, I realized why I write articles for visitors of victimization and their loved ones at Suite101.com, or for Forced Victims website. I do so because for me, recovery is a reality and a miracle. Truly believing that this is my miracle causes me to want to share it with others.
The first and most important step, for you or your loved one to have recovery, is to tell someone what your experiences, feelings, thoughts, fears, and secrets are.
You will need to change your belief systems
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