Dr. Phelan explains his concept thoroughly in his book. He writes in a way that you feel more like you are having a conversation with the man rather than reading his book. The language he uses is more like that of a friend sharing a great idea. It's not full of big difficult to understand psychobabble words. He makes it clear what a parent's job truly is and leaves no room for guilt to eat at the parent. He tells you up front that when you are done reading his book you will know exactly how to deal with your child. I believe he is correct in his theories as well. I've put them into practice with my own kids. Guess what? It's working.
He also explains in depth how to get kids to start doing the things you want them too. He calls these the "Start Behaviors". He gives several different methods to use. He also explains very clearly the reactions you are likely to get. In plain words, he tells you up front that your kids are likely to try to manipulate around doing what you want them too. He gives wonderful strategies for dealing with these manipulations as well. Again his theories are on target and methods work. I've been able to decipher which child will use which method of manipulation and deal with it.
He states clearly that you should begin using the 1-2-3 approach for "Stop Behaviors" about two weeks before starting the "Start Behaviors". This is an excellent recommendation. When starting the 1-2-3 methods you are going to encounter some difficulty and you will need time to adjust. More importantly your children will need time to adjust to your new methods.
Beyond any doubt the thing I like best about this book is the fact that Dr. Phelan does not list off all the things that make someone a bad parent. He has written this book in a way that it is enjoyable to read. I actually had trouble putting it down. It's clear that this man is a real live father as well as an "expert".
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