No Cats In Our Cradle!
My husband was raised to follow rules. He was raised by Thought-Police strict people, especially his mother who spent the most time with him. I'll put it this way: his mother's father was a soldier in the SS, and most of her parenting skills are what she learned gowing up. His stepfather spent most of his time working to support the family, so my husband's idea of "Fatherly Contribution" is summed up with: "But, I go to work every day, don't I? I come straight home afterwards, don't I?" To his credit, he has blossomed into quite the father, and all of our sons are crazy about him. It has not been easy for him, but he tries, and this is the key to it all. When I mentioned I'd like to homeschool Jasper, my beloved nearly choked on his own tongue. He actually blanched. He said nothing at first, and then he started asking me if I thought I was able to educate a child. Why did I think I was smart enough? (He's not big on filtering things he says. I don't take it "personal".) What would The Law say? Wouldn't the kids get shipped off to Juvenile Detention centers? Would we go to jail? Well, it went on and on.
Now, I know lots of good Christian women who would have never tried this without the approval of their husbands. However, I am partly of Jewish descent, and we all know, "The children of Israel are rebellious." So I went ahead without his consent (he hadn't really said not to, he was just real nervous about it) and did it. It did help that their first father was for it, and my husband sort of stepped aside for their father's opinion to prevail. It must not have been easy for him, but he could easily deny responsibility that way, too. Some days, I wish I had stepkids. ("No Sir, Officer-I've never seen that kid before in my life-see, he doesn't even look like me!") Just joking. Mostly...
I do not recommend wives do this if your husband is totally against it. You need support, not a detractor in the form of your husband. It hurt me very much when my beloved did not see things the way I saw them, and it still sometimes takes a lot of understanding to see why he is the way he
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