Loss can be turned into gains

I never would have seen, the light at the end of the tunnel, had I not come to the reality of how to enjoy life after loss.

While it's true, my hearing isn't as it once was, I am still able to enjoy the same music, laughter, and words.

Fate had steped into my life at just the right moment. Still trying to adjust to my loss, I met Danny Lopez. Danny has a Beatles tribute band known as BackBeat. The band members are: Peter George (John Lennon), Frank Mendonka (Paul McCartney), Jeffery Shapiro (Ringo Starr), and Danny Lopez (George Harrison).

My friends and I go see the band perform locally, and occasionally we travel out of town to see them. After the shows, we stay and talk about the pleasure we derive from the evening of friends and songs. This helps me forget about my loss and shows me my gains...friendship..one of the best gains life has to offer. Music is the magnet that draws us together.

In our lives we experience several various losses. Sometimes, it's a painful learning experience we all eventually have to endure. My greatest personal loss, was when my parents passed away within weeks of each other. In my writing, I found a way to express my grief.

Currently, I am writing a short story. To be included in a new book called "Conscious Women, Conscious Lives". My story tells about my loss. I am guided by my mother, as she appears in dreams.

I began writing a novel, called "Divine Encounters" the plot revolves around a woman who's deceased mother helps her daughter, solve a mystery.

In my writing I turn my loss into a gain as sort of a therapy. I'm not trying to forget about the situation. I need to deal with the wound, grieve in my own way, and move on with my life.

I can't explain exactly how you can turn your personal loss into a gain. It has to do with the way you accept your situation. You'll discover that wallowing in self pity, is never the solution to the loss. Since any loss is traumatic at first, the lesson you'll learn is that attitude is the key to changing the way that you react.

I had to accept that my situation wasn't unique. The loss shouldn't have centered on me. I was taking the loss with self pity instead of with realization. I wasn't able, at first, to grasp reality and take the bull by the horns.

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