Just Say NO to Abuse!

It could live next door to you, just down the block, or around the corner. You could be aware of it happening on a subliminal level, but never quite put a finger on what it is about "that relationship" that bothers you. You may see or speak to that nice lady who always seems so sad on a fairly regular basis. You catch yourself wondering how come she seems so accident prone - bumps, bruises, cuts, broken wrist, cracked ribs. She may be jumpy when she's around her husband, quick to appease, have no opinions of her own, always apologizing to others for his treatment of her, his behaviour towards her. She believes his intense jealousy is a sign he truly loves her. And perhaps he does in his own fashion, but a quick look at his handwriting may tell another story.

His writing may show brutality by demonstrating a blotchy, muddy appearance. There will be heavy pressure. Look for clublike, descending t-bars, long t-bars, thick and blunt, descending arrowlike ending strokes. Combine these signs with things like vanity, megalomania and deceit and you have a pressure cooker looking for a place to blow - and if temper is also present, you may evaluate physical violence/abuse.

Spousal abuse takes on many forms, many silent, many insidious, but all damaging to its victims. Women in abusive situations often feel they can't change their lives, they're trapped and can't live without their abuser.

What a gut wrenching cycle of ups and downs, of fear and hope, despair and depression. Like a sticky spider's web, abuse and abusive behaviour pulls victims in tighter and tighter, binding them with silken cords so tough it's hard to break away. Some aren't able to break away,some choose to live with an abusive spouse because they think they have no other choice, others die, others lose all sense of self.

The silken cords of love woven by an abuser are awfully charming at first.He wants to be with you all the time, wants to know every minute of the day what you're doing. He calls at all hours of the day and night, vowing his undying love for you - even if you've only just known him for a short period of time. He helps you pick out your clothes, starts taking you everywhere, wants to know everything about all of your friends. He wants to spend every minute he possibly can with you and maybe thinks it

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