Are you keeping track of your habit? I asked you to write down every time you engage in your. What are you doing when your habit shows up? What are you thinking? How are you feeling? I also asked you to list the advantages and disadvantages of keeping your habit and the advantages of changing.
Back in the 1970s, a couple researchers, Nathan Azrin, Ph.D. and Gregory Nunn, Ph.D. developed a method for breaking bad habits called habit reversal. They wrote a book that is now out of print, Habit Control in a Day. Since then, the method they described has been researched and found to be effective in helping people with tics, nervous habits, stuttering, and many other types of unwanted behaviors.
The first part of habit reversal is awareness training. This is what you've been doing the last few weeks -- becoming aware of when you engage in your habit. What you are thinking, doing, and feeling when your habit shows up? Who are you with? These are habit prone situations. Sometimes we can try to stay away from these situations or places, but often they are with us everyday. You can avoid the temptation to drink by not going to a bar, but you can't avoid opening the refrigerator where the beer is stored, for example.
So what can you do with these times and situations when the urge to engage in your habit can be overwhelming? Be extra alert at these times. My husband works at an airbase. They have different degrees of alertness that they describe with the letters of the Greek alphabet - Alpha, Beta, Charlie, Delta, etc. This is not to say they aren't alert at all times, only that they are more alert and take more precautions at certain times. At times, certain doors are locked and parking lots are cordoned off near the buildings.
Similarly, when you enter our National forests you will see signs posting the fire hazard. We need to be extra alert to the dangers of fire when the temperature is up and the foliage is dry. And what about when you were a kid and Mom said, "I'm warning you, this is your last chance!" Didn't you try extra, extra hard not to do whatever it was you weren't supposed to be doing?
As we saw in my last article, there is a much greater danger of tripping and breaking my foot when walking anywhere that my son has recently been. There might be a cordless phone in the middle of the floor. I'm extra alert, watching where I step, when I walk through his room to get his laundry or walk past his desk in our office to get to my desk.
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