C is for Coming Out

Happy Thanksgiving. I'm not a big fan of turkey myself (I really love ham), but it's a nice, well meaning holiday. At least it probably is at your house.

A few years ago, one of my friends chose to come out on Thanksgiving. She said a lot of people do that because it's the season of being thankful, and forgiveness. (There's a season of forgiveness?) Anyway, it led to a big blowup of "How could you do this in front of Grandma?" and kinda spoiled the mood. Yet another friend came out on Thanksgiving, and because everyone was in such a good holiday mood, they were less upset than they might have been. So, depending on your family, today might or might not be a good day to announce your sexual preference.

It's funny that I can't actually remember "coming out". I mean, my parents are all over the internet. And I'm out all over the internet. They know my yahoo ID, and have seen my profile, which lists Gay, Lesbian and Bisexual as an interest. I think my mom met my ex girlfriend, who I introduced as my girlfriend. It's possible that they choose to ignore it. Since I'm with a guy right now, maybe all the "gay" is gone.

I guess that's a better reaction than screaming, pleading, and forcing me to see a doctor for a possible "cure" (yes, there are still doctors out there claiming they can "cure" homosexuality), but I've never decided if I should push the issue or not. I mean, if I force this to become a part of our lives, then it's something we have to sit and talk about. I've been pretty happy with my parents leading their lives, and me leading mine. I go and visit them every now and then, we talk about neutral things like my education, politics, and books, and then I go home. Our family can't handle serious issues, we're the poster family for dysfunction. Every time we haul out something serious, one of us ends up in court against the other. Next thing you know, my mother will be accusing my father of molesting me to make me gay. Or maybe my dad will accuse my mom, I don't know. They're both of the belief that someone has to "make" you gay, it couldn't happen on my own. I've learned over the years that each generation has its beliefs and ideals that they carry with them, and it's next-to-impossible to change their minds.

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