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B is for Bisexual

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As you know, if you've read my work before, I've written about bisexuals (heck, I am one). Been there, done that, right?

To recap, a bisexual is NOT someone that needs to be with a man and a woman AT THE SAME TIME. Some do, some don't. We do not all crave a menage a trois. Some of us are capable of monogamy, some aren't--just like heterosexuals and homosexuals.

So what is a bisexual? Just someone who’s capable of having a fulfilling emotional/physical relationship with a man or a woman. Nothing more—or less—than that.

But how can people be attracted to both genders? That’s one of the most common questions I get. How is that different from saying, “How can you be attracted to the same/opposite sex?” Because you just are. I never stopped to think about it. My crushes were always on the arty, moody, sarcastic types—whether they were male or female. It’s just the type of person I’m attracted to. I have friends that are attracted to men. Other friends are attracted to women. Those are just one of the prerequisites for their attraction. I just happen to lack that. I like guys with long hair. I have friends that like guys with short hair. Tomato, tomahto.

I must admit I'm disappointed in the bisexual links on the internet. There are several, but not as many as I'd like to see. A lot of bi-specific forums and mailing lists are overrun with ads from heterosexual men looking for sexual relationships with one (or more) bisexual women, or spam. I say don’t complain unless you try to do something about it, so I've created a few mailing lists and webpages, but overall, when you type in "bisexual" into a search engine, you have to wade through hundreds of pages of pornography.

Here's the best of the best for bisexuals:

Bi Femme Haven
Yahoo Email List for Lesbian and Bi butches and femmes
BiFem.net
Bisexual.Org: Bringing Bisexuals Together
Bisexual Resource Center
BiNet USA
Anything That Moves
Bi All Means
Bi The Way
Bi Planet
Bi.org
BiWays
Coming Out: Realizing Bisexuality in a Straight World
On Bisexuality and Feminism
Kinky Bisexuals: Ultimate Switches or Outcasts?
Color Bi Number
Soc.bi FAQ
Bi Pagan
A few key political issues for bi people compared and contrasted to those of lesbian & gay people
Bi-101: some basics about bisexuality

Being bisexual is no better or worse than being monosexual. We just have more potential partners to choose from.

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