The Ups and Downs of Being Bisexual

As a bisexual woman, I've encountered a lot of sterotypes in my daily life. I would like to take this opportunity to point out that, 1. I am not a lesbian. 2. I am not straight. 3. I am not confused. 4. Being bisexual does not mean that I will have sex with anything that moves.

I have yet to understand why lesbians and gays are so unaccepting of bisexuals. We're fighting for the same rights as you are, but you don't want us on your side? We deal with the same things you do, but you don't like us either. Lesbians deal with the sterotype of being masculine and man-haters. Gays deal with being considered "effeminate". Bisexuals are considered "easy" and uncapable of monogamy.

You would think that by now, people would have let go of these gross exaggerations. However, that's not the case. Even if people are willing to admit that they may have been wrong about gays and lesbians, they'll never go that far for the bisexual community.

Most people consider them "confused" and incapable of committing to either gender. Many lesbian women will not date bisexuals, because they say bisexual women will cheat eventually. Lesbians are now using Anne Heche as an example, saying that since her recent breakup with Ellen DeGeneres, she's rumoured to be dating a man. And everyone has a story about someone's friend of a friend of a friend that sleeps with everything that moves!

This is the reason that most Bisexual women declare themselves "Lesbian" or "straight", to avoid more discrimation. They may go so far as to deny a side of themselves, and make life even more painful for them.

If "attraction" equals "infidelity", then we're all guilty. So why are bisexuals being made to carry the burden? Being bi doesn't mean that I'm greedy, and want as much sex as I can possibly get. It means that I acknowledge my attraction to men and women. If I'm dating a man, and I love that man, I'm not going anywhere else. I may acknowledge a good looking woman, but I'm not going to sleep with her. It's the same as if a straight woman sees a good looking guy. Why is that ok, and this isn't?

In closing, I just want to make a plea to the gay and lesbian community: accept us! Where are we supposed to fit in, if you don't want us with you? They call it the GLBT community. Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender. All of us together want the same things in life. If we spend all of our time labelling ourselves, we'll never get anywhere. Instead of analysing, "How straight is he? How gay is she?", let's focus on, "What kind of person are they? How would I get along with them?"

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