I left the line to see what had delayed my partner and commented on the babe at the check out line. I rarely do that sort of thing, sort of a repressed childhood I guess! I just don’t look at others unless they are in Victoria’s Secret commercials! Ah the bliss of TV!
When we went up to the check out line, low and behold the woman I admired was my partner’s niece! Therefore my niece by extension! We all had quite a good chuckle over it all! And we have the prerequisite incest joke on occasion!
Next came the family Christmas party. I was delighted my niece was there and got to meet her dad, Matt, who was the most homophobic of the family. He was wonderful to me and I only know of his homophobia from others. I never saw or heard of anything exclusionary he said or did about us.
My niece had on a claddah ring and I admired it. I asked a little about the significance of it. For those of you not familiar, the ring is a heart, cross and hands. One way you wear it you declare your heart open, Turn it around and it means your heart is taken.
Just as a joke I asked who her sweetie was. She got up and ran out of the room hurriedly. I was very upset and didn’t understand why she reacted that way. Everyone else just laughed it off and said she was strange.
Later on we discovered that the niece Lilly was a lesbian and terrified to tell her dad because of his dislike of gay people. We saw her socially a few times and met her partner Melissa. She explained that she just wasn’t prepared for anyone to pick up on the ring and it was her first lesbian relationship! She freaked at my question and just ran!
Time passed and my partner and I decided to have a holy union. We had been together about a year and a half and knew this was it! We issued invitations to all the family members expecting the homophobic brother to decline. Shock upon shock he RSVP’d that he would attend.
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