What is a woman’s place in this world? Are we the caregivers, or the bread winners? Are we the kisser of boo-boo’s or the family financial planner?
Is the woman the one who is in subservience to a man, or is the woman the leader and head of the home? Who’s the woman?
We have all heard the expression, “Who’s the man?” usually meaning that the man in question is “the man”. The person who is doing good, or going places, financially, emotionally, etc. But, who ever stops and asks, “who’s the woman?”
Woman are no longer the same “June Cleaver” stereotype that our mothers strived for. Nor is she the “Bra burner” the “Free Spirit” or the “homemaker”.
Even women who remain at home today are the key to their families. They are the leaders, the role models, and the caregivers. Women who work outside the home are also role models, caregivers and leaders. Women are powerful and graceful, they are intelligent and fun.
Women are also misunderstood and often abused. Sadly, most women are treated the worse by themselves. Women do not take care of their own needs, because they put those around them first, at all times. At all costs.
Who do you put first in your life? Second? Third? Are you even on your own list?
If you are like me, your name is way down under the husband, the mother, the kids, the brothers and sisters, the friends, the boss, the co-workers, and even the house.
I have always put my needs last, but, I come by this honestly, as my mother did the same before me.
I was talking to a friend the other day, trying to explain to her how self-sacrificing my mother has always been, and I made a statement, that, though I was cognizant of the information, the actual saying it out loud made even me shocked. “My entire life I never saw my mother have her hair cut by a professional” My mother never went to the beauty shop. She never even went to a local friend who was a professional. Momma went without for us. For daddy. For everyone. Momma did without, and I have followed suite.
Why do women feel such an urge to sacrifice for others? Because we are taught to do so from a very young age. We are living in the year 2001, and yet, we still tell our daughters to “ask the company if they would like something to drink”. “Serve your father a glass of tea”, “help your brother tie his shoes”, “share with your friends, make sure they have a cookie before you eat one yourself”. Is this bad? Yes. And no. We want our daughters to be polite, considerate and loving human beings. There’s nothing wrong with that. But, don’t we want our boys to be the same? Why do we tend to place the emphasize of serving and sacrifice more on our females than our males?
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