Mother's Love

We go through stages of need in our lives, in relation to our mothers, that are so integral to our development, the stages, themselves, appear to be part of our maturing process. We have our ‘periods” of development, much like an artist will have their particular “periods”. These are otherwise defined as spaces in our life when we thought, acted, believed, and existed within a certain thought or methodology.

In other, simpler terms, we are who we think we are at any given period of our lives.

I call this, particular, theory, the mother index.

THE MOTHER INDEX

When we are newborn babes our mothers are mere shadows of comfort, love, and renewal. We receive our warmth, sustenance, and sense of well being without really knowing or understanding this omnipotent person known only as mommy.

When we are two our mothers are sharp tongued, steel willed individuals who say only NO, NO, NO. They say things like “get down before you hurt yourself”, and “Stop that!” We receive our sense of right and wrong, and our earliest understanding of fear and retribution from this all knowing, all powerful person known only as momma.

When we are five our mothers are warm circles, with arms that hold just a bit too tight, and fear that inhibits our sense of adventure, discovery, and delight. We get our sense of caution and our first relief of freedom from this person known only as mom.

When we are ten our mothers are so embarrassing, with their kisses, and little notes, and their jokes that are so out of date. We get our sense of social skills and graces from this person known only as Oh, mom!.

When we are fifteen our mothers are just plain wrong. They understand nothing, they fear everything, and they don’t trust us at all. We get our sense of being overprotected, yet, somehow, always loved, from this person we now know as Mother !

When we are twenty five our mothers are our friends. They understand everything, and they fear nothing, their faith and trust in us gives us a sense of who we are. We get our sense of self-assurance, and pride from this person known only as mom.

When we are thirty five our mothers are our heroes. They have lived through it, survived it, improved it, and motivated our world. We get our sense of being strong, powerful people from this person know only as momma.

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