Stay calm
Remember, that if you handle it well your children will too. It is important to treat the situation or any like it as though you were a distant relative. The worst that could happen is that you might gain a friend or respect from the new girlfriend. Later, out of the situation, it would then be OK to cry and let everyone who will listen hear what a jerk your ex-spouse is for parading his girlfriend.
Don't take it personally
If your ex is now dating a 15 year younger blonde or toned muscle "playboy", remember that this has no reflection on you. What kind of person your ex is now dating does not mean that you are fat, or old and that Bob or Sue divorced you because you were not good enough.
Don't put the kids in the middle
Remember that the kids need you to act like an adult. Don't rant and rave. Count to ten, say your ABCs but be polite. Don't try and use your kids to pass messages to your ex about the new significant other and your frustrations.
Contact your support system
Call or contact your support system. If you don't have a support group or person then get one. There are many chat rooms and groups that offer just that kind of sounding board. Try places like http://www.bellaonline.com, http://www.divorcenet.com, http://www.20ishparents.com , www.http://parentsoup.com.
Remember that you are divorced
Keep in mind that you are divorced from this person and that despite your personal feelings toward them, the only relationship you have with them is as a parent to your children.
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