Fear of Growing Old Alone?


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Sep 1, 2001


7. You don't have to worry about children coming over and breaking things or tormenting the kitties

6. You don't have to worry about people "dropping" by unannounced so you can "look after the kids" for a few hours while the parents go some place

5. You have all the time in the world to paint, knit, sew, learn to dance, write and SLEEP

4. When you are 45 you understand that the privilege of choosing who to love and care for is the greatest privilege of all. You finally have the maturity to appreciate people for who they truly are and can forge the bonds of friendship (and love) with them because you WANT to, not because there is some genetic connection

3. When you are 45 (if your parents are still living - as mine are) you have the understanding that there isn't much time left, and so you spend as much time with them as you can. It is wonderful not to have to sacrifice that time to shuffling kids or grandkids around to school functions, soccer, etc. There is a peaceful joy to spending those quality moments with aging parents

2. When you are older you don't have as much patience with people. If you don't want to hear about someone's offspring at work, it is much easier to simply walk away than it was when you were 25. Being blunt is a skill that comes with a lot of practice, as does not giving a shit what other people think

1. The greatest advantage to not having kids or grandkids is being able to spend a lot of quality time with the spouse. We have so much wonderful fun together that would be utterly ruined by kids or grandkids. A couple of years ago we went to Disneyworld and I had a wonderful time. As I looked around me at the families, ALL of the parents had scowls on their faces and looked like they were having a miserable time

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2.   Mar 28, 2002 2:49 AM
Many childed people do end up growing old alone. The scenes of adoring adult children and grandchildren crowding around Grandma and Grandpa are only a Norman Rockwell fantasy. This only happens in h ...

-- posted by nosprogsAH
1.   Dec 29, 2001 5:24 PM
Okay I meant dropping.
I am single 44 hmm! People do actually think that they can drop the kids off! They clothe this in a garb of doing me a favour.
Tell the kids they can play in my office!
Kid ...

-- posted by brisbaneartist



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