I didn't always feel totally comfortable nursing in public. There were many times when just getting the blanket over my shoulder with one hand would cause a scene. Latching my baby on would take some concentration, which would leave me wondering if anyone had noticed after I brought my head out from under the blanket. But eventually I became an expert at being discreet.
Just like the very act of breastfeeding, nursing in public takes practice. As much as I wanted to believe that nursing in public should be as natural as nursing at home, I still found myself using a few techniques to feel more comfortable. Here are a few simple things a mother can do to make the first few times easier.
Self-Image and Attitude
Our society tends to think breasts are merely sexual objects. Many people consider nursing a baby in public as "indecent exposure." But realizing that your breasts are serving a very important function will help you to prepare for such negative thinking. Breastfeeding moms should not be expected to feed their babies in bathrooms, cars, changing rooms or corners. Some states even have laws to prevent people from telling a mother she cannot nurse in public.
Yet some mothers still feel uncomfortable. This is perfectly normal, considering what our society has been teaching us for decades. Feeling self conscious about nursing can be overcome by being around other nursing moms. Going to a mall or restaurant with another nursing mom can help both of you feel more comfortable. Practicing discreet nursing at LLL meetings is a great way to get the help and support you need, while observing how other moms handle nursing in front of people.
It is important to remember that by breastfeeding your baby, you are providing nourishment, comfort and security. Understanding that you have every right to provide these things to your baby will help you develop the right attitude. Bottle feeding moms are not expected to nurse in the bathroom, why should you? By nursing in public, you are helping your baby adjust to social environments by providing comfort and shelter from strange noises and sights. Your breastmilk is always available, sterile, the right temperature, and easy to access.
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