Central to recovery from Borderline Personality (BPD) is an acceptance of the fact that you can empower yourself to take responsibility for yourself as you seek to further define just who you are and what that means. In my experience of healing from BPD the answers I needed to find were not to be found in pills; the answers were not to be found from others; the beginnings of what later became understandable and workable answers for me did begin in therapy and in experiencing corrective experiences, both of which were very painful and required me making a choice to be true to my determination to be well. You must be determined to be well. Then you must take responsibility to ensure that you have every possible opportunity to recover. It is not just up to the professionals. In fact, your recovery will have far more to do with you and the choices that you do or do not make than with any drug or any professional.
You are in control of your own happiness )or lack thereof) and your own destiny. Painful as it may be to read, once you reach adulthood what "they" did to you or didn't do for you needs to be left behind. Let go of blame and take responsibility for where you are right now. Start from there to actively be involved in your healing process. No one else can change you for you -- NO! Changing you is your job and responsibility. The goal in recovery and or healing is to ovecome Borderline Personality Disorder. Overcoming BPD means learning to deal and cope effectively with change.
You may feel down, or lost -- unsure of who you are supposed to be changing into; yet once you start to change, grow and recover you cannot turn around and go back. It is crucial that you realize that holding onto to old behaviours; old ways of thinking; old choices; (often made subsconsciously) will keep you stuck in the throes of BPD. To heal you need to learn to let go. To let go, as I've said before, you must slowly walk into the wall of your pain. You must feel and grieve it in order to realease it in healthy, age and situationally- appropriate ways.
If one is not actively seeking recovery -- that is to say if you are still sabotaging yourself, injuring yourself, abusing yourself or others, and looking to others to both define and take care of you -- the reason may be, aside from
