So, how do you handle the situation where the parent you live with remarries and you get along great with the new step-parent?
You see your absent parent only every other weekend and every other holiday?
Your step-parent is always there for you. They go to every sporting event, every school event, and are there every night when you go to bed and every morning when you wake up. You fuss, you fight, you make up, and you play.
When you go visit your absent parent, they ask you questions about how things are going, any problems, are you being treated right, etc. Now you don't want to make your absent parent feel bad that you are getting along so well without them, do you? Yet, you don't want to make them think you are being mistreated either. You want them to know you are OK, but that you still miss them. This seems to be the safest and best answer.
Sometimes it's really difficult if the absent parent lives a distance away and can't come to your sporting events or school activities. They aren't in your daily life and therefore, become estranged somewhat. You actually feel a little uncomfortable, at times, when you visit, and find you don't have a lot to talk about. This is sad, but it does happen. Since you can't share a lot of what goes on in your home with your absent parent, you need to talk more about superficial things. You can talk about what's going on at school and away from home. A great idea would be if you and your biological parent had some hobby or interest in common so you could interact on that topic, and hopefully, participate together in doing it. For instance, if you collect sports cards, coins, stamps, build models, or any of a number of collection activities, you could spend some of your time together working on projects. It's not about how much time you spend with your parent, but the quality of the time that you spend.
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