"That's my toy! Don't touch it!" Selfishness is probably one of the biggest problems when children in another child's house. The visiting child wants to play, the resident child wants all of his toys for himself. This is especially present when the resident child is an only. He is not used to sharing, and doesn't think he likes the idea, either. Help the resident child understand that the visitor needs something to play with, and you understand that he likes his toys, but that the two (or more) of them could have lots of fun together if they were to both play with the toys. Let the resident child feel like he is in charge. Have him show the visitor all round his room, and show him how to use his toys. Find a game that both of them can play, and suggest it. Or even just start playing it. More likely than not, both children will come join you, and the resident child will forget about being selfish. If this doesn't work, be forceful. Tell him that he has to share. Give him consequences if he doesn't. You are here to make sure both children are happy, not just the resident child.
If you are to put the children to sleep before their parents come home, the visiting children may not want to go to sleep in a strange house. If they are still toddler age or younger, they are likely to cry. You can make the children feel better by asking the resident children to bring them a stuffed animal or another toy that the visitor might like to hold while he or she sleeps. You can explain to the resident child that they will leave the toy here when they go home, in case he is worried. Try telling the child that it is like a sleepover. Give them a bed time snack, tell them a story, then turn out the lights with instructions to go to sleep. But don't worry if there is some talking. Unless there has been strict orders from the parents, it is a special time for the children as well, and missing a half-hour of sleep will not hurt them.
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