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I have been told that I am lucky to be able to stay at home with my son. In reality, luck has nothing to do with it. My husband and I made this choice before we were married, and adjusted our life accordingly. When we bought our home, we could have easily afforded a home that cost twice the amount, or more, of what we paid. We knew, however, that doing so would mean that I would be forced to work after we had children, so we opted for the smaller, less expensive home in the working class neighborhood (as opposed to the "Yuppie" neighborhood). We don't drive SUV's; we do not have new cars, and will probably not buy a brand new car for quite some time. We do not have designer clothes. We are not hurting, but we also do not spend money frivolously. We have chosen this lifestyle, first and foremost, because it allows me to stay home to raise children, and secondly, because we want to teach our son that money and material possessions are not what are important in life. We want our son, and any future children, to know that they're MUCH more important to us than money or material possessions! I believe I would fail as a mother if I gave my children the message that my desires and wishes were more important than they are!
My husband and I did not go through years of infertility, and pregnancy and childbirth, in order to give our child to someone else to raise for the majority of his waking hours. We decided to have a child because WE want to raise him the way we choose.. Raising a family is a choice and a goal for us; it is not an afterthought. Our small family is the most important thing in our lives, and we have chosen to put our child first, before our wants or wishes. Unlike many mothers, I don't dread the thought of becoming "Will's Mom;" to the contrary, I can hardly wait to have him run in the back door with his friends, to hear his friends say, "Hi Will's Mom!"
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