One could argue that our divorce rate is higher than ever, so of course there are more singles. I, on the other hand, will argue that more people are less willing to settle or remain with relationships that lack in emotional fulfillment. By the way, my "Tribute to Marriage" article consistently has the highest number of hits on a daily basis; which also tells me that people do believe in marriage and commitment... or at least continue to show the strongest interest in pursuing permanence with the ultimate companion.
So, what's it all about Alfie? Why do YOU date? Are you one of those dating demons that isn't very selective and just goes out because you can't stand staying home alone? Do you date for the sole purpose of interviewing those that might fit into your job description? Do you not date at all because you can't be bothered but secretly wish things were different? Or hey!... maybe you've figured out that dating is just like going to an amusement park; if you've got the right attitude it's all fun.
Someone once asked me why I date younger men. It's simple. I date them because I can. I don't choose my dates because of their age. I am an equal opportunity dater if anyone cares. Many have the idea that dating someone younger than one's self is like a habit or acquired taste. Along with this "acquired taste" are several myths and stereotypical ideas that I will address. And by the way, I define younger/older as someone with a minimum ten year age difference from one's self.
The first myth is that younger men date older women because they are seeking a replacement for their mothers. These men are said to be suffering from an Oedipal complex. I am sure there are some of these Oedipal men out there but I haven't met one. In fact, when I ask any younger man what his mother would say if she were to meet me as her son's date, they usually respond with how cool their mothers are by showing trust and confidence in their sons' choices. To me this means they have open, healthy relationships with their parents.
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