As a divorce statistic I realize my credibility may be a little dubious but think of it this way... it is because of the very fact that I absolutely believe in the sanctity of marriage that I couldn't remain married. Also, just because I am divorced doesn't mean my marriage was a mistake. My marriage remains one of the greatest positive experiences of my life, and probably the most character building as well. My two sons are proof positive of what was good about it.
Of course, being a single parent one is never sure how one's children are going to be impacted by their parents' divorce. My sons were three and six when their father moved out of our home. There was no fighting or general unease, let me just say that my ex-husband and I were on two different wave lengths. Our one mutual area of agreement and concern was for the children. Over the years my sons and I have had an ongoing dialogue as to the who, what, why of marriage in general. My secret concern has always been to see how they would fare in their own personal relationships down the road.
Last year my secret concern was finally put to rest. My youngest son, Kurtis, had taken to his first year of college like a duck to water. He had been double majoring in psychology and music, planning to use music as a means of healing the human psyche. He had been considering adding pre-med as a third major but was undecided. He attended a lecture to be presented by one of our nation's foremost researchers on the cerebral cortex to help him possibly make a decision.
He was sitting in the first row of the huge lecture hall when a woman sat next to him. His first thoughts were that she wore way too much make-up and her perfume was too heavy. This woman began to query him as to what his interest was in being there. Of course Kurtis began to share his ideas on healing with music in his usual animated manner. When the guest speaker, Marion Diamond, was introduced, and this woman stood, you can imagine Kurtis's great surprise and embarrassment over not knowing with whom he was so casually speaking.
