83. What Do Reality Shows Show?
A couple of years ago I watched a television first, (not counting MTV's Real World), "reality show," called "How To Marry A Millionaire." I wrote an article in response to it, " 9. A Tribute To Marriage," February 25, 2000. Since then I have boycotted watching similar programming.
Fast forward to 2004, when the proliferation of "reality shows" has pretty much overtaken sitcom ratings. I've been compelled to sit myself down and try to figure out what the "big deal" is with reality shows.
American Idol auditions, one with exceptionally high ratings, is one that has left me in total disbelief. Is it just me, what am I missing? I absolutely cannot believe that the majority of those trying out actually believe they can sing, and in fact, become very indignant when they don't get asked to visit Hollywood. I sit there cringing in excruciating auditory pain and embarrassment for many of the individuals, who seem to be oblivious to their lack of singing ability.
YES, I believe and encourage every single person to follow their heart and dream, and even applaud anyone who is willing to go up against the odds. BUT... there seems to be a serious flaw in some of our self-perception. Too many seem to be living with grandiose delusions. This doesn't just apply to one's singing ability either.
On September 29, 2000, I wrote an article called "24. The Brutal Truth... Can You Handle It?" I'm sure there is more than just one Simon Cowell in the world, it's usually someone near and dear who isn't afraid to be honest. If you don't know of one in your life, I suggest you make an effort to find someone as soon as possible. We all need that "slap of reality" every once in a while to keep us honest and on track. Simon Cowell is a bit abrasive, I agree, but then I think I would be also if I had to sit through thousands of mediocre to dreadful auditions. The end result is that Simon puts his money where his mouth is, doesn't waste your time and will not allow others to waste his.
I believe that the self-delusion begins very early. Parents, who mean well, who are always encouraging their children in all activities, sometimes overdo the praise. "You're sooooo talented, you're the best, you will grow up to be very famous," etc. Certainly parents should always be encouraging, but they should also teach their children to continually strive, continually work on improvement, and to accept that there is no substitute for hard work and effort. Most importantly, parents should teach their children that self-worth isn't dependent upon fame, fortune, and always winning first place. Even those with God given natural talent don't have a direct short-cut route to the end of the rainbow.
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