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Sending up a Red Flag

© Peggy LeTrent

It's strange to think of myself as 17 years older than my husband. It's not like I walk down the street and constantly remind myself of the age difference. Unless people bring the subject up, it isn't in my thought process. I'm never aware that it should be until someone makes it a big deal about it.

Most women don't shop for clothing based on their age, purchase furniture, or a car based on what is acceptable or not acceptable according to their age bracket. So why is it so important to consider in a relationship?

Relationships initially develop because of the individuals involved, not because of their age. As I have stated over and over again…many of the problems with age difference stem from others who lack information and blindly push their personal bias onto others. These self-appointed rescuers crush the spirits of those who thought it irrelevant to their relationship.

The next time someone renders opinions on your personal life you may want to have a little fun with it. Getting defensive is certainly the wrong way to handle a response…a sense of humor works wonders. The last thing you want to promote is feeling insecure because those opposed will see your red flag waving and only seek to question you more on what they see as an unstable and unhealthy relationship. They will see your red flag as giving them license to rescue you from this ill-fated lifestyle.

There will always be those who see age gap relationships as abnormal. The bottom line is this: You are the one in the relationship…so who is better qualified to judge if it works or not? You or those who think they have your best interests at heart?

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