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Attachment and Bonding: Words From the Experts - Page 2

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Parents have often been blamed by mental health and social service professionals who lack an understanding of attachment disorder. Helping professionals may assume that the child's acting out is entirely a result of ineffective parenting, without identifying the child's prior attachment difficulties. Symptoms of posttraumatic stress disorder are routinely observed in the parents, the siblings, as well as the child with attachment disorder."

Attachment, Trauma, and Healing: Understanding and Treating Attachment Disorder in Children and Families, by Terry M. Levy and Michael Orlans.

"One of the worst forms of therapy for Attachment Disorder, ADHD or Tourette Syndrome children is time. Waiting for them to outgrow the behaviors DOES NOT WORK. These conditions, left uncontrolled, can destroy a child or turn them into a killer, a rapist, a child abuser or a suicide statistic. Each passing year wears the parents down more and the child becomes sicker, more destructive, and BIGGER! DO NOT WAIT! Get effective help now, and start using these parenting tools right away!"

"POWERFUL PARENTING TECHNIQUES--THE DYNAMIC DOZEN
1. Take care of yourself first
2. Establish respect
3. Create and maintain a heart to heart connection
4. Teach self control
5. Set Limits - Help your child accept limits
6. Supercharge your expectations of responsibility
7. Expect restitution for damages
8. Remove barriers between you and your child
9. Avoid the wrong battles and win the war against rage
10. Teach your child to think for him/herself
11. Guide the processing of feelings
12. Build self esteem"

When Love Is Not Enough: A Guide to Parenting Children with RAD (Reactive Attachment Disorder), by Nancy L. Thomas

Attachment and bonding is a complex occurance. The research into attachment is ongoing. Stay informed about attachment and bonding so you can help raise a secure, well-attached child.

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